Dr (Mrs) gbekiniwa

Six ways to combat unwanted sexual advances from lecturers.

Written by Oluwagbemisola Ogunleye

There are three reasons why a wrinkled old lecturer could be staring at you very intently;

1. He/she is carefully maneuvering your destiny into an old iron bucket because you did not greet properly.

2. He/she is bald and is jealous of your full hair

3. He/she wants to sleep with you.

Fine boy…close your mouth. You think it is only girls that suffer unwanted sexual advances? May God not let you encounter misfortune in the hands of a lecturer that wants to test the diameter of your back entrance. It is not always that you ‘happen to be around’ when that HOD is patting her stiff old weavon and reapplying lipstick – Dr (Mrs) gbekiniwa has a crush on you.

Even outside the school walls, it is beyond possible that your friend’s parent/grandparent/very old sibling has a crush on you. These days, shame does not exist and too many people have lost their admission/grades and chance to graduate to shameless old lecturers. Here is how to avoid the misfortune of unwanted toasters before they become impossible to avoid:

1. Trust issues will save your life: until proven otherwise, everybody is a suspect – they all want to off ya paynt. Not to look a gift horse in the mouth but when much older people start to give treatment that they don\’t give to your colleagues to you, you should be wary. For some people, ‘I see you as a daughter/son’ is synonymous to sugar baby. All the drama usually starts with ‘harmless’ check-up phone calls

1. Limit contact as much as you can: Once you notice that Iya Lagbaja has started to touch your thigh when she\’s driving you to school from their house, stop going to their house. If a lecturer has started asking ‘are you one of us in this faculty’ too much, start sitting at the back of the class. Incognito mode will save your life. Stay low-key and begin to avoid them like leprosy till you are no longer taking the course.

1. Never be alone with them: If Potiphar’s husband was around, there is no way she would have been able to corner Joseph and try to tear his clothes. ‘Come to my office’ is a big trap. Once a lecturer of the opposite sex begins to tell you things like that, make sure you always have somebody that will follow you to their office with you. The next thing that person will do when they corner you is to attempt to tear your boxers. A word is enough for the wise.

1. Always have evidence ready to go: Once you see them approaching, open your voice recorder app and start recording before hiding your phone somewhere that they can\’t see. If it gets down to it, all you need will be those receipts and somebody powerful to save your admission. Always keep receipts of your conversations with them.

1. Inform all affected parties: Don\’t wait until they start to invite you to hotels to let your parents and guardians know what is going on. You would be surprised at the lengths your parents will go to save you when it comes down to it. They could have one connection somewhere that is powerful enough to scare the lecturer away and if they don\’t have it, they will find it. If it is your friend’s relative that is moving to you, tell the owner of the family member (with receipts of course).

1. Report them: in this country, we all know that law enforcement is a scam but these days, law enforcement like the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency (DSVA) has been working towards combating things like this. Once you have receipts and you are sure that the law enforcement system in your school works, report them. All it takes is for one very strict high-ranking lecturer with connections in the school\’s administration for everything to stop.

If you are currently battling unwanted sexual advances from a lecturer/someone significantly older in a place of authority, we understand your pain and we hope that you come out of this battle on top. If you know anyone that a lecturer has started moving to or is currently trying to tear their shirt, help a brother/sister out and send this to them. Like, subscribe and restack for a wider reach 🧡

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